Friday, November 16, 2012

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Saturday, October 27, 2012

Life Insurance Recommended by the Specialist

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Thursday, October 18, 2012

Fast and Easy Online Payday Loan

What comes into your mind when someone tells you about online payday loans? Well, I will tell you about what you should think about it. It is easy to apply. You also have a chance to get the cash fast. Those are the things that come to my mind first when I think about online payday loan. It is reasonable because the loan requires you some requirements that can be fulfilled easily. What you have to make sure is that you are employed and earn regular earning from your salary. Another thing is only related to how old you are. However, when you are given a question about where to get the cash, you may get confused.

Now I want to recommend a website of online payday loans lender that you can visit to apply for the loan. It is, a reputable website that will help you with your financial problems. At the website, you can apply for the loan without thinking about faxing and lines. What you can get from is just fast cash that will be delivered to you. You are also given an easy step of application. Now, you just need to visit the site for the cash you need immediately.

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Balance Your Physiology for Stress Prevention and Stress Management

Balancing your physiology and building a solid and strong foundation is paramount for preventing stress (cortisol) from building up in the in first place. And what's great is, it helps reduce the stress response in the other following stages as well (perception/response and acute stress management). It will also help elevate your metabolism and burn fat. Understanding the basic cortisol cycle will help you gain control over this best (stress).

For more background information, you may want to read another article entitled Stress Reduction and Stress Relief: Prevention- Get back into control

If I told you the best thing you can do to prevent and reduce your stress is to eat breakfast would you laugh at me and think I'm crazy? Well, that's exactly what I would strongly recommend. Here's why this is so vital to you and your stress reduction. Your cortisol levels are highest first thing in the morning peaking at about 7-8am. They fall by noon time with another peak after work and then falling to a very low point at bed time. You don't want to be in the fight or flight response at bed time. This natural circadian rhythm makes sense and it matches our lifestyles. Did Mother Nature know best?

But why you ask. Why are cortisol levels highest in the morning? For at least two major reasons. One. Too get you up out of bed and ready to take on the day. Two. Working together with the hormone glucagon cortisol raises blood sugar levels to power up your muscles and your brain! Remember you have been fasting overnight and blood sugar levels will be low. The brain demands the body do this and keep blood sugar levels stabilized.

Cortisol and fat accumulation

A little piece of data you need to know to lose fat. Cortisol breaks down muscle to release amino acids (the building blocks of muscle) which are then used to make glucose, which is energy for the brain! Think about this, where do you burn fat? In your muscles right. If you catabolise the very tissue that burns fat you will lose your ability to burn fat and you metabolism will drop making it more difficult to burn fat. Oh yes, you will be more tired with low energy. Cortisol also promotes belly fat accumulation!

Further, cortisol contributes to elevated insulin with is the blood sugar balancing hormone. Elevated insulin has two effects on fat. One it promotes fat storage. Two it inhibits fat mobilization and utilization by muscles. Elevated insulin makes you store fat which you can't burn! YUCK!

So why is breakfast so important? It provides the food that will be broken down into glucose to fuel and feed the brain and your working muscles. Ah you say! That makes sense. Now using your good reasoning skills can you deduct why it would be great to have protein with your breakfast? To prevent the breakdown of my muscle tissue which is where I burn fat you say! Exactly! Having breakfast with protein is incredibly important to fire up your metabolism and assist in fat burning. You whole metabolism works better and you feel better with less stress!

But what happens if you're too busy and you choose not to make time or plan for breakfast? How does your body maintain blood sugar levels and feed your working muscles? Ready for this? It releases more cortisol! Yes that's right. Your body will release even more of the stress hormone! Let's take this a step further. What happens if you throw some "gas" on this fire and have a caffeine beverage (caffeine is a powerful central nervous system stimulant)? You would be setting yourself up for a perfect physiological disaster. Irritability, the shakes, anxiety, hyper excitability, muscle loss and fat accumulation! OUCH! This does not optimize your physiology and in fact increases levels of the stress hormone cortisol contributing to a "stressed and wired" state. Ever wonder why there is so much road rage in the morning? This may be a significant contributor.

Try eating like this and see what happens. I've dealt with over a thousand clinics and the feedback is consistent. It is almost a miracle what happens. It makes sense once you understand the physiology. This changes your life! And this is one simple thing you can do.

Breakfast and long term weight loss

And how important is eating breakfast to your health? The American Heart Association reported that "... if you skip breakfast, you increase your risk to obesity, diabetes and heart disease. If you have breakfast you may reduce you risk by 37-55%." HUGE gains in health by a simple lifestyle change that you have total control over. Two things which are consistently associated with a longer, healthier life include eating breakfast and exercise. Set yourself up to win and do this one simple thing!

One more point on fat accumulation, weight loss and breakfast. Breakfast sets the physiological tone of the body and directs other food choices for the next two meals by altering hormones and brain chemicals that influence your food choices. What this means to you is, if you skip breakfast or have a poor one, you will make poor food choices and eat poorly for your next two meals! The following study solidifies this point.

    One large study of 3000 people who lost on average 70 lbs (32KG) and most importantly, who kept it off for 6 years. Of the almost 3000 people, 78% ate breakfast regularly! Only 4% reported never eating breakfast. Both groups consumed the same number of calories and the same type of foods. A conclusion deduced was that it's not just the type of calories consumed but also the time of day you eat that influences weight loss and maintenance of weight loss. It bears repeating, breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Mastering this one core strategy helps prevent and buffer stress and sets you up to win.

Build you breakfast. If you have breakfast and provide amino acids in the form of proteins combined with low glycemic index carbohydrates, you can greatly reduce cortisol levels and stabilize blood sugar levels. This is a key empowering step. In addition if you add some good fats (olive oil, fish oils) they will help to keep the glycemic index low, make the meal taste better, stabilize your blood sugar and help keep you fuller longer. You now have a winning combination and an incredibly important first step to make every day great. Drive this point home with some excitement and energy!

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Meditation or Medication?

Answering a question depends on the point of view we would like to choose. For a long time the society has been rewarded for living unreflectively - for living an unexamined, inauthentic and superficial life. The ideal of a person as promoted in the media was self-centered, materialistic, anti-intellectual and often driven by sensuality or greed. Today we witness how beneath the distorted value system, the eternal human qualities are being remembered, strengthened, and given the freedom to evolve. We are regaining the power of human relationships, discovering the harmony with our physical environment, colleagues, friends, family, our inner-self and our spirituality.

The knowledge of the realms of mind and body has been wrongly separated for centuries. We were created with a capacity to experience pain, with a certain level of discomfort or "healthy" anxiety. This is our continuing fear of moving through life towards death. Our symptoms have important meaning. The pain is a response to a situation or person that unsettles us. The feeling of being depressed or anxious provides us with a chance to reflect upon ourselves and to change the behavior that brought these emotions to us. If we choose to mask these feelings with medications, we evade the search for the reason behind our unsettledness. We avoid taking responsibility for our relationship with our selves and life.

However, the designer of the Universe felt that our pain is instructive. It is our gift if we accept it as a loving part of who we are. It is the most invaluable lesson that lies deep inside of each of us. Everyone discovers the message in his own time, the message of how fragile life is and how brief is our time.

Meditation is a system of practices, that helps people take responsibility for the quality of their thoughts. Meditation practices can help you enter the center of your stillness and serenity, to reach a "zero point". From this point, you can observe apart the flow of your changing emotions, thoughts and intentions and gradually understand their origin and meaning.

In the past, meditation was viewed as spiritual or religious practice. Today more and more people turn to meditation to receive the benefits of deep relaxation, and to handle successfully the psychological and psychosomatic challenges, releasing the accumulated stress in the body.

Some psychotherapists believe that meditation and hypnosis are similar states of mind and that the first one is just a part of the second. Electroencephalography or EEG shows that meditation is a more structured state of the consciousness. Hypnosis has different indicators. If it is a quite hypnotic sleep, we will see decreasing or complete disappearance of alpha rhythmic brain activity, reducing the frequency and amplitude of beta rhythm and appearance of delta like slow waves. The recording of the brain's electrical activity during hypnosis can be like the normal activity when you are awake. The person who is meditating is in a state of a focused concentration and the electrical activity in his brain is as he is ready to fall asleep. These facts are leading us with great curiosity and increasing attention to study the teachings of Yogis. During meditation, they report that their whole body is in a state of deep sleep, and their mind is in a state of a special type of wake.

The word "meditation" is from the Latin - meditatio," is moving to the center". There is also a version that meditatio comes from meditor- "to think, to contemplate, device, ponder". Exactly this is what happens during meditation. Without strain, without applying any kind of effort, you are appearing in the center of yourself. You are experiencing the feeling of being on a high elevation and observing from it everything that is happening. You can see clearly and distinctly what is important to you and undoubtedly realize it. From this higher point, you can find out a lot about the person you thought you are or were. You will begin to understand this person's life scenario, the plot of his destiny. Did his parents reject him? If this happened, did he allow this situation to influence his life? On the other hand, maybe the mother loved more his older sibling. If that was so, does the youngest continue to compete to be the first in the eyes of his mother? Does this person live in fear that life is passing him by?... All this begins to seem to you like a script written for someone else. You notice how old emotional "wounds" start t to heal.

Thursday, August 16, 2012

How to De-Stress on Your Way to Work

To be able to de-stress on your way to work you need to be able to control the 'fight / flight / freeze' response. This in-built mechanism goes back to when we were out in the wild hunting for food. Being able to fight and run away from wild animals is essential in that environment. It is still useful of course in some contexts in the modern world too, but as you well know, all to often the 'fight or flight' stress response kicks in at varying levels throughout a normal day! But, because you're not fighting or running that stressful chemical mix just saps your energies and can induce stress related illness. Clearly stress is bad for our health and peace of mind. So wouldn't it be great if we could discover the secrets of how to de-stress fast...

Energy Medicine

The following 'de-stressing' technique comes from the world of Energy Medicine. It's so easy you will quickly be able to verify for yourself how effective it is. As with quite a few of the Energy Medicine techniques, people actually partially do them already. In other words part of our being knows a lot about natural healing innately. For instance when people 'lose it' they often hold their hands on their head, in the 'O my God!' pose.

Unfortunately they only keep their hands there for a few moments. If they kept their hands there for a few minutes they would be able to return to a calm balance. These locations or points on the head are known, in Energy Medicine, as the Neurovascular Points. These locations impact blood circulation throughout the entire body.

The ones we are going to use to help reduce the stress response are located an inch above the eyebrows; the bumps on the forehead. By placing the thumbs on the temples at the side of the eyes and then placing our finger tips on our forehead we keep the blood from leaving our forebrain.

The forebrain is the part of the brain that is responsible for our cognitive skills. Even when you've 'lost it' holding these points brings blood back to the forebrain! Which means you will be able to think straight again. There's also an added benefit in that it can also provide a cranial adjustment which may relieve: Chronic headaches, neck pain and jaw tension.

You can re-balance your brain using this 'Energy Medicine' with any stressful emotion / state of mind such as:

    Self Pity
    Confusion / Lack of Concentration

Re-Programming The Autonomic Nervous System

Do you ever think about things from the past that stress you out? All you need to do to re-program that stress response is hold the Neurovascular points while you think of those memories. There's no need to try to be positive, simply hold the points and the stress will melt within minutes. Go through a few memories while holding the points, you could do it in the bath, and the de-stress-ing effect will begin to generalise to other memories automatically!

You can, of course, go ahead and think of upcoming events that cause you some stress. Simply think about them while holding the points. Go through a few like that to help generalise the 'stress melt.' World renowned healer Donna Eden once stated at a seminar at Lake Lucern, Switzerland, "holding the neurovasculars ALWAYS works!" In Energy Medicine she says this will be one of the simplest yet most valuable tools you can learn to help yourself de-stress fast.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

Handle Your Stress Better With These Simple Tips

You should not allow stress to control what you do in life. Battling stress can change your outlook on the future. The tips provided below can make a difference in how much stress you feel each day.

To minimize excessive stress, be sure to drink plenty of water. This will help you stave off hunger that contributes to negative feelings. Furthermore, plenty of water will flush toxins from your body, allowing your immune system to focus on healing. Everyone should try to consume 8 glasses of water daily for best results.

Write out a schedule, and stick to it. Lack of organization probably causes many of your stressful mix-ups. You will be better prepared for what you have to deal with and what responsibilities you must fulfill when you have your schedule well-organized ahead of time.

Smiling more is an easy way to get rid of your stress. Smiling involves your limbic system, which helps to regulate your emotions. Smiling often makes you feel calmer, which in turn reduces stress.

Take the time to do something for someone else. Consider picking flowers for your spouse, or fixing a treat for your child. This puts the focus on others and is a positive way to remove xourself from your own stressful situation. An added bonus is the recipient's reaction to your gesture.

Stay on top of needed repairs that can be stressful if allowed to pile up. If you have three things that need to be repaired, that is triple the effort you will have to do. It is better to stay on top of things.

An affirmation is a quick, positive statement you can use to keep your mind focused on beating stress. As you repeat your affirmation to yourself, you will be able to stifle that wheedling, pessimistic voice from within. Inform yourself that you're capable of dealing with it, that you are calm, or whatever affirmations can help you feel better.

Many people turn to drugs and alcohol to help them when they are feeling stressed. This serves as an escape from all the problems in their lives. Drugs and alcohol are definitely not a good solution. Drugs and alcohol will instead make your life even harder and add to the stress you are already dealing with.

Gardening is fun, and works great against stress. The advantage of being a home owner is your backyard or front yard may be turned into a garden at will.

It is a fine line mentally when you are seeking help for your problems. You don't want to talk about your problems all the time, but you feel that you might burst if you don't get it off your chest. Sometimes, though, it is necessary to talk about these things. If they are really your friends, then they will be open to you talking to them about whatever it is you need to talk about.

The key to dealing with stress, is having a safe outlet to release anger. When you are upset, you should not over-react and bump up your blood pressure. Discover and use safer outlets to vent your anger. This will keep your stress levels lower.

The advice above will help you find ways to deal with stress. If you maintain your stress levels throughout your day, you can stay happy and in better physical health for a long time. Use this advice within your life, so you can feel better.

Saturday, August 4, 2012

Practical Tips for Relieving Stress

Stress is inescapable everybody's life. There are different kinds of stress and each will certainly have to be attended to. Our body has its own stress coping mechanisms which's why all of us do not crash when put under tremendous pressure. The stress definition varies in every individual's life, given that every individual's body responds in a different way to stress. Take a look at a couple of practical actions for soothing stress.

Exercise: Stress induces the secretion of a chemical into the bloodstream and the body is provided an energy boost. When the stress is associated with physical needs, this energy is depleted. On the additional hand, when the stress is not associated with anything physical, this excess energy can easily affect the body adversely. Exercise not just helps consume this energy, however additionally helps relax both mind and body. This is best way to deal with any type of stress. It need not be a trip to the gym or trying to lift hefty weights, rather more easy exercises like walking, jogging, or also washing up your house!

Meditation & Breathing Exercises: Meditation is one method to soothe down your mind and refresh the body. When this is combined with breathing exercises, it can easily be a great combo and soothes stress. Besides, it enhances your overall physical and mental wellness and provides you with better control over stress.

Songs: Popular music is long known to have healing perks. When playing calm or melodious popular music, or just your more beloved tracks, it can help loosen up both mind and body.

Having an Outburst: More often than not, your stress is composed of built-up feelings. It can be anything from negativeness with a person due to their actions or additional issues that usually tend to stress out more. The very best way for soothing such stress is an outburst! Yes, crying, laughing, or dancing about or any sort of associated outburst could possibly deliver a welcome relief.

Diversion: An additional method to just get rid of stress is by diverting your mind and thoughts. Things to do: gardening, cooking, hanging out with your buddies or even sports; it can be any type of activity that you absolutely love. This is an excellent method to soothe stress and refresh your mind and body.

Stress Log: Having a stress log works for many. While some think it is more of an escapism course for soothing stress, this does help. All you got to do is list the things that really trouble you. It might be debts, or a work related tension, a relationship issues, or nearly anything else. When you list, your mind thinks that you are working out a solution for the problem. Depending on the problem, you could exercise just what's feasible and for the rest-- just write it down and let it rest. Some even have a specific "worry" time where they consider the problem then, and forget about it every time else! It is a good mind trick, because stress is frequently a result of emotional chaos.

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Stress Management for Single Mothers

We all know that no women would ever wish to become a single mother and see her child suffer for having a broken family but still nobody can ever predict what our life would be; only God knows what his plans for each of us. So if you are one of those single mother out there don't be sad, Cheer Up, life goes on. Even though your boyfriend or husband left you intentionally or because of death, don't lose hope because you're not alone. You are blessed of having a child so there is still a reason for you to continue with your life and moved-on.

But still, we can't deny the fact that the life of a single mother is always surrounded with greatest fear, anxiety, worries and stress on how they to deal to the chapter of their life of having a child without a father. But worry no more because we can help you take away all your fear, worries and anxiety and give you advices on how to manage your stress.

If you always feel stressed and don't know how to manage it, it may bring harm to your health and may lead you for having an emotional imbalance so we must handle our stress with proper care.

Here are Some Ways in Handling Your Stress

• Always think positive and look for the brighter side of life.

• Set goals and dreams for you and for your child/children

• Always spent quality time to bond with your child every day and always have an open communication.

• After a long and stressful week at the office, invite your child for an out-of-town trip and do some adventure activities together.

• Have a healthy and balance diet

• Do the things that would make you happy, inspires you and can bring back the beautiful smile on your smile and these activities may include, gardening, singing, writing articles and engaging in different sport activities.

• Spend time with your friends or office-mates once in week

• Live your life to the fullest and always take away all the anger, insecurities and pain in your heart.

So if you oftdn feel stress just follow these simple ways and I'm pretty sure that from the time you know how to manage your stress, you will be away from any harmful effects of stress to your body and will give you a younger and blooming looks again like a teenage

Friday, July 20, 2012

How to Cope With Grief, Disappointment and Disaster: 7 Keys for Peace

Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. ~ Christopher Robin to Pooh (A.A. Milne)

Life happens. Or more appropriately, 'stuff' happens in the middle of your well-planned life.

Usually unexpectedly. Often tragically. Certainly challengingly.

Stuff happens that we wish we'd anticipated... that we hoped we could avoid... that we would have prevented had it been possible. Sometimes we even pretend that it isn't happening (or won't happen), hoping it will just go away. You know what I mean...

    You go to work one morning... and come home unemployed.
    You go to the doctor... and find out you're dealing with more than you knew - and the bills to go with it.
    Your spouse tells you "I want a divorce".
    You're a caregiver... but no amount of care can reverse your loved one's condition.
    You plan as best you can... but 'stuff' overrides your plans and purposes.
    You wake up to a beautiful, sunny day... and it goes downhill from there.

It was a day like that for all of us on September 11th in 2001. We woke to a promising morning - until someone called and said 'turn on your TV'. The unimaginable and impossible became both real and tragic.

9/11 was a national disaster. But, what about all your personal disasters and disappointments? All of a sudden, joy and peace are gone, replaced by regret, remorse, anger, grief or depression. Your body lacks the energy to move forward. Your mind revolves round and round the problem, wondering "Why me?"

Yet somewhere in your mess, another thought pops up. "I'm stronger than this. I deserve better. And I can't quit. So, what can I do? How do I get through this?"

I remember vividly all those emotions - and a few more - while caring for my mom. She would have a pretty good day and I'd think, "Thank You, God. I am so grateful that she's getting better." The next day she would be too weak to eat and I'd wonder, "Why am I even praying for healing? Just end this, Lord. I can't do this anymore." Up and down, round and round, like an emotional merry-go-round - lots of activity but getting nowhere.

So, how do you cope?

    Remember your faith. Often when you get in overwhelming situations, the problem seems bigger than any solution. Not true. God is 'ever mindful of you'. Seek His comfort and wisdom. Pray for peace, mercy, wisdom and strength. Find His Word that speaks to your situation Affirm that Word as truth in your life. Use faith like a tool to connect you to Divine power. If God is for you, who can be against you? (Rom. 8:31) Faith is the victory that overcomes anything the world can throw at you. (See I John 5:4 and I Cor. 15:57) Remember that.

    Be good to yourself. Your mental, emotional and physical well-being are vital. You cannot help anyone else if you're worn down or exhausted. If you've ever flown, you know the emergency drill: put your oxygen mask on first - before you try to help someone else. So... get enough sleep. Take mental breaks throughout your day. Get out in the sunshine. Do whatever you need to do for your own peace of mind and spirit.

    Laugh. A merry heart is good like medicine (Prov. 17:22). Laughter releases chemicals into your system that counteract depression and other negative emotions. When life challenges you, search for funnies. Read jokes. Watch comedy TV. Laugh about your situation - even if it doesn't feel funny. Laugh on purpose - ha... ha, ha... ha, ha, ha - until your emotions catch up. Laughter is a great stress-buster.

    Ditch the guilt. If you have some responsibility for your current situation, be honest with yourself about it. Do what you can - apologize, address the issue, correct what you can - then let it go. Forget those things that are behind (Phil 3:13). Do not wallow in the past, dredging up every mistake you've ever made. You can't move forward lookin' back!

    Slow it down. You know those scenes in the movies when everything moves at half-speed. Every scene takes on a clarity that you might miss at full-speed. Slo-mo, they call it. When life seems overwhelming, slow down. Breathe. Refocus. Move slowly with deliberation. Crises seem to create chaos and confusion, but they don't have to. By slowing down your thoughts and movements, you can begin to feel more in control.

    Listen. God speaks to you in the quiet of your mind and heart. But if your thoughts are racing in turmoil and confusion - "What should I do? I don't know what to do!" - you won't hear His voice. Quietude is key to finding peace and wisdom. The Bible says to take every thought captive (2 Cor. 10:5). Seek peace and pursue it (Ps. 34:14). Meditate on comforting Bible verses. Listen to quiet music. Do whatever it takes to stay calm and open to new thoughts, ideas, insights and direction.

    Watch your words. Speak consistent with your faith - all the time, not just in your prayer time. Words have power. Use them to create what you want, instead of complaining about what you already have or don't have. Don't keep reaffirming your current situation(voicing your anger and frustration), create a new one! You can do it... with your words and your faith.

As long as we are here on the earth, there will be challenges to deal with, crises to cope with and uncontrollable situations that somehow need resolution. These seven keys will help you stay strong through the challenges and find the peace, strength and wisdom you need to move forward.

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Thursday, July 12, 2012

Work Place Stress Is Not Unusual - Nor Is Treating It With Psychotherapies

It is thought that workplace stress is suffered by as many as one in three workers. This might seem like a high number but considering the conditions of most workplaces it shouldn't really be all that surprising. If you pack a large number of people into any space tensions can rise pretty quickly. Consider how irritable people become on train platforms when the train comes in late. Manners go out the window and people get pushed out of the way in the rush to get a seat.

Putting all those people together in the same room for eight hours a day, day after day, would create enough friction on its own but then make those people carry out a series of complex tasks that depend on everyone doing their part and you have the makings of one big stress factory.

The simple fact is that our brains are not designed to cope with the intense level of activity required by the modern world. Not only does it call for carrying out intricate and abstract tasks but it also requires our brains to navigate an irregular environment, crossing roads with lethal vehicles traveling faster than anything you'll ever encounter in nature, picking out important details amongst a myriad of shop fronts, square buildings and street lights are things even a few billion years of evolution could never prepare us for.

The very psychologically intense nature of modern life is what eventually gave rise to psychotherapy. New strategies had to be developed to help us live in this strange new world. And it continues to get stranger by the day. The vast array of consumer electronics that we use to make our lives convenient also comes with entirely new sets of problems. From being overwhelmed by the clarity of their dazzling displays to worries about what exactly your co worker meant in the comment they left on your social networking site.

Despite all of this many people are still surprised when they develop stress or anxiety. We tend to think that because everyone else is coping with the world around them we should be able to do so as well. The simple fact is that many of the people around you are not coping with the stresses of everyday life.

Many of them may be suffering from anxiety or even depression. It isn't always obvious. Others may be seeing a counselor or psychotherapist to help them cope with stress in the workplace or other problems they are having in their lives like relationship difficulties or self esteem issues. There is still a degree of taboo around seeing a therapist and even if there weren't they might not want everyone to know they are having difficulty coping with work.

Of the people who are coping, the majority of them likely have a series of coping strategies in place to help them deal with life. But even these can be derailed by an unexpected event such as a bereavement.

In reality seeking psycho-therapeutic help to cope is a sensible and pragmatic action to take rather than being a crutch or an admission of failure that many people perceive it to be. And it is far better to seek help in developing coping strategies when stress is beginning rather than waiting until it develops into depression.

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Stress and Your Health: Why You Must Learn How To Manage Stress

If you don't already know how to manage stress or how to reduce stress triggers in your life, it can have a major impact on your health, whether you realize it or not.

You may not think that your stress level is bad enough to cause health problems, but don't underestimate it because stress is a "sneaky" thing.

Below are the different ways that stress can affect your overall health.

Reproductive Issues - Stress has the ability to affect the hormone levels in both men and women.

For women, this can cause problems with their menstrual cycles, which affects their chances of getting pregnant. For men, this can cause sexual disorders such as impotency and others.

Digestive Disorders - As you probably already know, stress has been found to cause ulcers, which are ultimately caused by bacteria.

However, stress does still encourage ulcers to develop because when one is under a lot of stress, he or she will generally catch a bacterial infection easier than someone who is not.

There are other digestive disorders that can be caused by stress as well. These include irritable bowel syndrome, diarrhea, constipation, stomach pain and more.

Stress can cause our bodies to go into "fight or flight" mode, which can cause our bodies to temporarily turn our digestive organs "off." This will naturally lead to digestive disorders if it occurs often.

Upper Respiratory Problems - Many experts believe that stress weakens our immune system by decreasing the immune responses.

When this happens, your immune system will be suppressed which will make you susceptible to a wide variety of health problems such as influenza, colds and infections.

Weight Variations - As previously mentioned, stress affects hormone levels in the body. One of those hormones is cortisol (the stress hormone). This hormone directly affects your metabolism, which will affect your weight.

Some people lose weight while others gain weight when stressed out on a regular basis. Regardless of whether you gain weight or lose weight, neither is good for you.

However, gaining weight is generally worse as it can lead to joint problems, diabetes, heart disease and sometimes, even cancer.

Increased Anxiety - When you are under constant amounts of stress, it can cause a wide variety of anxiety problems. For example, you may begin to exhibit obsessive compulsive tendencies, worry excessively, have panic attacks and many other anxiety issues.

Heart Disease - As previously mentioned, stress can cause your body to go into the "fight or flight" mode, which directly impacts the heart as it causes it to become more stressed. When this happens often, it can lead to heart disease.

It is an undeniable fact that stress has an impact on people and their lives. The problem is that many people don't realize how stress can affect them.

To protect your health and mental wellbeing you need to learn how to manage stress better, and to start implementing the changes in your lifestxle that can naturally reduce stress and its triggers in your life.

You can find many natural stress management techniques if you search online, and if you invest in a quality self help how to book you are sure to make some great improvements toward reducing your every day stress and being much more happy.

Monday, July 2, 2012

A Different Form of Stress and Management

One stressor all of us have in common is the stories we tell ourselves and others that tend to be based on our interpretation of the facts of what happened or what-is, colored by the stories stored in our mind about past experiences. As a milder example of this, I got an e-mail that was written a certain way, and perceived a tone or attitude in the message. I "thought" I read it correctly, felt miffed by the message, but decided to wait to respond, to practice that "Cooler heads... " thing.

During the wait, I paid attention to how my mind wanted to interpret the message and the sender's intention, and how in order to do this, my mind began to pull up bits of data (thoughts and feelings) from old files tucked away in memory (and a broad range of thought-data it was, at that!), as though they were relevant in the Now and to the sender. They weren't.

My mind was only doing what it was conditioned by example and habit to do: Establish a story to go with the event, to provide context and meaning beyond what was actually there, bdyond what was actually there to be addressed. During the wait-time I focused on something else. When my mind attempted to wander into story-land in search of supporting information so it/I could create an "informed" interpretation of the e-mail and its writer's intention, and my "right" to react, I chose not to go there. I stayed with my choice to wait to respond to the person when I was clear-thinking and had a quiet mind.

A few hours later I re-read the e-mail without stories attached or any build-up of negative energy that is wont to happen when the mind replays and attaches stories from its repertoire. I'm so glad I chose this process because my mind's initial, so-fast-I-didn't-see-it-happen interpretation wasn't completely accurate. I was able to respond, not react, to the e-mail sender without my message being influenced by emotions, just facts. (And I received a gracious e-mail in reply.)

How often we jump into reaction-mode based on instantaneous attachment of one or more stories to what happens, by our ego-mind. If you think about it, a good portion of the stress we experience when something happens or someone says or writes something to us is because of the stories we engage as opposed to engaging just the actual event or statement.

I could have so easily stressed about the e-mail and its writer through stories replayed or imagined during the wait-time, building up more and more emotional energy that would have been inappropriate and non-productive to express. Not to mention my emotional energy would not have been based solely on facts or truth. It's so easy to do this because it's a familiar practice for many of us. We are, after all, attached to our stories. We use them to describe or define our experiences, our life. We believe our stories represent the truth. Some do, some don't.

What we say to ourselves, and others, during challenging times contributes to how long we stay in such times, which is often way past the actual event. We steal our own joy with our words. We deplete other's joy with our words. Our words create stories, which can create stress, depending on the words we choose. Every word, thought or expressed, and action, is like a tattoo on us and on others we touch with them. Tattoos require destruction to remove them and reconstruction to erase the visible fact of their existence. Even if this process has a good result, the memory of the tattoo remains.

Our mind can use us or we can use it. We can believe we are our mind, that we are our thoughts. We aren't, but we often act as though we are. Practice watching your mind think. Then practice realizing that you are the watcher, the observer, watching the mind think; that you are not the same entity. If you were your mind, you couldn't watch it from an observer's point of view. The mind is a tool for us to use; it is not the Being we truly are, just as your car assists you to go places but you are the driver, separate from the car.

When you practice watching your mind, do so without judgment, because any judgment will, again, be just your mind trying to slip thoughts and stories in between cracks or an open window in your awareness. This practice lets you step away from compulsive thinking (compulsive mental storytelling), which is stressful and often directionless or leads you into an inappropriate direction. Eckhart Tolle wrote: "Thinking and consciousness are not synonymous. Thinking is only a small aspect of consciousness. Thought cannot exist without consciousness, but consciousness does not need thought... Thought alone, when it is no longer connected with the much vaster realm of consciousness, quickly becomes barren, insane, destructive." If you consider fear, anger, rage, etc., you can be aware of this as a fact. When we feel these emotions or witness them, we witness the absence of or temporary disconnection to true consciousness and clear thinking.

There is one time that telling our stories to ourselves or others is beneficial: if we need to vent, get input, or heal emotionally. It's the other times, the ones that don't lead to resolution or healing, but lead us away from them that I refer to here.

On September 11, 2001, we witnessed the power of stories to lead members of the human family to unconscionable acts of destruction, or extraordinary acts of grace. That day is just one of numerous examples in our shared history; but, I'm reminded of a story one survivor of that day shared. He explained that during the time he thought his fate was sealed, he hadn't liked his dying thoughts. That the next time he faced dying he wanted different thoughts than he'd had that day. He made changes in his life and himself to ensure this. This is a powerful, meaningful way to use stories for our well-being and the well-being of others.

We can let better thoughts while we live contribute meaning not only to our time here but also to that departing experience we all inevitably meet. While we create stories in our mind about our life that we tell ourselves and others, we simultaneously create stories WITH our life that get told by others, while we're here and once we aren't.

We can choose to create a different legacy while we're still here. And in that process, we can choose to recognize the stressor (and destroyer) that our storytelling can often be in our regard and the regard of others, and choose clear thinking and consciousness instead. We can combine clear thinking and consciousness with how we really want to feel, and with the dream of a better bigger picture, and find a way to get there instead of where we usually or too often go. To make this a habit will require attention and may take time, but I'm willing to continue this. What about you? It's a good practice.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

3 Steps to Calm Down Fast

The worst time to make up your mind on a specific matter is when you are calm or during an emotional times where your mind is not thinking straight. Your mind can calm down in minutes, but of course, depending on the situation you are suffering, it could take more time. But no matter what, a decision you will take in your state of anger will not turn out to have the outcome that you have wanted.
As a main rule, your decisions cannot be rushed. You need to be calm before taking any step forwards or any decision, no matter how small or urgent it is.
But how can you calm down to take a decision when you are at an angry state?

There is a simple method to calm down temporarily. It does not take much time or effort to work, but it does take a lot of concentration.

• Breathing:
As strange as it might seem, breathing will always help you calm down and grab a hold on your temper. Even in the hardest situations, the ability to breathe slowly and allow your anger out with the breath that you exhale will change your mood almost instantly.

- Press your palms together in front of your face and close your eyes.
- Inhale until your lungs are full while raising your hands up until they are all the way up.
- As you inhale, move the muscles of your stomach; sucking it in and pushing out in a way that would make you feel comfortable.
- Slowly exhale out of your mouth while moving your arms away; extended to either side and down.
- Repeat the same process until you feel calm.

The whole process should not take more than a minute.

• Relaxing:
Relaxation will help you get a stronger grip on your mood. It will set your mind free of the stress you might be going through. The mean to relax will take more effort than releasing your anger temporarily.

- First of all, you need to get in a position where your body is comfortable. The stress your body will put on you might change the course of your relaxation.
- Either close your eyes or stare into a still object or wall.
- Imagine a white sheet of paper, or whatever that resembles emptiness in your mind.
- Begin drawing on that sheet something that will keep you calm as long as the drawing is still and at the same time expanding.

This process will take a little longer but it will put you in a right set of mind for the next and final step.

• Imagining:
The final step could be taken in two different approaches.

- First, close your eyes and start imagining the situation.
- Do not look at the situation from your position, but rather from above. Imagine it as if you're watching a football match with two teams competing for the win.
- Try to see who has the right; whether it was your party or the other party.

- Look at where you are headed. The decision you are making will depend on it.
- Take all the roads to imagine how the decision will affect them. If it was a yes or no question, then see where you might go with either answer.

At the end, all of this would not take more than ten minutes if the situation was too big. You cannot think right when you are angry or emotional. You have to calm down and relax before rushing into decisions.

Monday, June 18, 2012

Add to Your Knowledge Stress Management Strategies

Add to your knowledge Stress Management Strategies

Do you believe that God put us here on this earth to stress?

So, what is stress? Stress according to the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language is a mentally or emotionally disruptive or disquieting influence; distress.

You see, our minds react to information received about a situation from our senses. When the mind perceives a threat, it activates a response and equips the body to proceed with that course of action. It can occur in an instant, often before we are conscious of the threat. The mind shifts into gear to deal with the threat so that it may restore us back to our stress free state. If we believe that we do not have control of the situation then we may experience anxiety or panic attacks.

Depression is bound by the works of God. Depression is not happy

Understanding how to relax your mind can help add days to your life. Learn how to refocus your thoughts to that place of refuge when your thoughts come from a coward; it can and will bring peace to your situation. Recognize the power that you have over these mentally or emotionally disruptive or disquieting influences by allowing yourself time to meditate each day and make peace of mind your first priority. Regular exercise, meditation, progressive relaxation, deep breathing and yoga are excellent ways of managing stress in your life especially for those who are at high risk for heart irregularities.

Managing stress can help reduce the development of serious physical conditions such as hypertension, heart disease, stomach problems and even cancer. It can also help to overcome psychological issues such as clinical depression, anxiety and panic disorders.

In a recent article, I read where this person would make the sound of the ocean with their breath. Whenever they focused on their breath, it would calm them to make that deep, resonant whisper sound the way they were taught in yoga class. They would direct their breath at the back of their throat, and listen to the sound of the force and power of their own breathing, there inside their head. They went on to say however, that breathing will only get you so far.

There are many different ways of applying stress management strategies to your life and you will find that each person has their own special way of managing stress. For example, if you are experiencing mild stress, you can drink herbal tea. Some health food stores carry tea that provide herbal stress relief and you may be able to find them available in capsule form as well. Keep in mind however, it is best to consult a doctor before taking any herbal medication especially if you are taking prescription medicines for other ailments; there are some herbs that you should not drink or eat as they may cause a harmful interaction with each other. It has been noted that herbal remedies are more effective when you have a healthy diet, regular exercise and complete rest. And remember to smile. Smiling works wonders.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Should You Lie Down or Sit Up to Meditate?

No doubt, life can be stressful and tiring these days. So, it should be no surprise that a common question I receive from my meditation students is this: "Is it O.K. for me to meditate lying down?" While you certainly can get benefits from meditating lying down, there are several important reasons why I encourage sitting upright. In this article, we'll explore the often-overlooked, powerful benefits of upright, seated, meditation posture.

Now, before we begin, let me say that I recognize that, for some people, sitting upright is not an option. Because of illness or disability you must lay down. Let me be clear that I advocate meditation first and foremost as internal training that can be done lying down with many positive results.

However, for those able to sit upright, I highly recommend it for a variety of reasons. Not only do I recommend sitting upright, but I recommend doing so without back support-at least for as long as you can without strong discomfort. Here's the posture I recommend and why:

I suggest sitting on the front edge of a chair, couch, or bed with the soles of your feet firmly on the ground and parallel to each other. In other words, you'll be sitting upright without back support with your feet flat on the ground. You can then rest your hands on your thighs or cupped in your lap.

Imagine a string attached to the top of your head gently drawing your spine upright. Tuck your chin slightly to lengthen the back of your neck. Place the tip of your tongue up to touch the roof of your mouth or touch it to your gum-line behind your upper teeth to relax your jaw. Smile slightly with lightly closed lips. Relax your shoulders down. Soften and relax your hands.

Sitting in this posture has several powerful effects:

1. You will strengthen your spinal and core muscles. Not only does this help your posture, it also provides mental-emotional strength. It gives you a "strong backbone" which strengthens your will and the power of your conscious intentions.

2. You'll align your spine and relax tension in the muscles not needed to hold you upright. As you learn to sit upright in good posture, you'll learn to relax your neck, jaw, shoulders, abdomen, and back muscles that may be tight from chronic stress.

3. You'll strengthen your vital energy. Sitting upright in good posture facilitates nerve conductivity through your spine, blood circulation, deeper, freer breathing, and vital energy flow through your core and throughout your whole body.

4. Sitting upright in good posture encourages alertness, paying attention, and present-moment awareness. It will facilitate you shifting into a meditative state. In contrast, if you're lying down, you're much more likely to lose focus and/or drift into sleep.

O.K. so sitting upright without back support has many powerful benefits.

Yet, most people will find it challenging to sit upright without back support for any extended period of time. Yes, it does take some conditioning and practice to reach the point that you do not feel achy and tired in this position. However, if you find it impossible to sit upright for even just a minute or two, you're likely better off lying down and taking a nap. You might just need some rest.

If you are up for meditating, here's what I suggest:

Begin your meditation practice by sitting forward on the front edge of a chair that has back support. Go through the posture cues mentioned above to relax, come into good alignment, and become present in your body. When you begin to get tired or have pain in your neck or back, first recognize and accept that discomfort. Put your attention right into the center of it. Imagine that you are breathing in and out of that area. Consciously let go of the tension as best as you can. Then return to the cues of your particular meditation practice.

If you continue to experience discomfort or it gets worse, gently slide back against the back support of your chair for the remainder of your meditation session. Stay as relaxed and upright as possible as you rest against back support. The amount of time that you are able to sit forward in an unsupported position will naturally lengthen as you continue to practice. Eventually, you'll find that the upright unsupported position is the most comfortable way to sit. In addition, the benefits of this posture will give you even better results from the time and energy you put into meditating.

Enjoy your practice!

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Question for Men: How Do You Handle Stress?

Women support each other under stress. How can men handle it more effectively?

Lets start with some basics: Stress affects both men and women. But growing evidence suggests that women do a better job of getting support from others, and in general, they manage stress more effectively. Take a look around you in the workplace. With more women at work and in management positions, which sex does the better job of supporting each other? Hint: Would you be surprised to hear at work, "Let's meet at lunch and talk about it, girlfriend." Thought not. Yeah, guys sit down together too, but how often is it for emotional support.

In this era of seemingly unending financial and job uncertainty, how do men reverse the trend and begin dealing effectively with stress? The first steps are to recognize that you are stressed and then to figure out where the stress is coming from.

Your major stressors

According to recent studies, men are stressed most by the following:

Money. Duh! Who is not worried about the economy and our personal finances during these difficult times? Are you carrying these worries around like a piano on your back?

Work. The logistics and politics of our jobs have become far trickier as businesses cut close to the bone and ask for more effort and accountability from each employee.

Family expectations. Your spouse and children are depending on you to maintain the status quo. You can handle it in most cases, but stress and its effects-including irritability, anxiety, and depression-are the price you pay.

Marriage/relationship difficulties. Not smooth sailing between you and your S.O.? You can push it to the back of your mind when you leave the house, but relationship stress affects you all day long, unless you do something about it.

Health. Has your health been slipping over the years? This is often one of the areas you can address effectively-and it helps reduce stress in the other areas.

Not enough downtime. How much time do you give yourself to simply chill? Or are you stuck in your man cave wrapping up unfinished business after dinner? Read a good book. Watch a favorite show with a spouse. Walk or run in the woods. Take the bike out. Do you plan vacations, or do you get away briefly as an afterthought?

Sex. Is the physical intimacy in your marriage or relationship a stress reducer or does it add stress?

Little stuff. Taken together they add up, don't they? Your commute, the leaky faucet, household chores (which become harder to outsource as you look to save money), finding time to pay the bills and balance the checkbook-the list goes on.

How to cope-and thrive!

Most men experience stress from some of the areas listed above. The question is: what do you do about your stressors? How do you get unstuck and jump off the stress merry-go-round you ride on each day? Here are some healthy, tried-and-true ways to do it:

    Solve your financial problems. People worse off than you are taking big steps. Make a plan. Reduce expenses. Share the management of your finances with your partner. Put your plan down on paper and reserve a time-Saturday morning, Wednesday evening, doesn't matter-to spend a specific period of time, no more, no less. Get help from your bank, your creditors, or a well-respected credit counseling service. You will be surprised at how much they will cooperate and offer realistic solutions.

    Develop a new interest. There's an adage in the business world: "If you want something done, give it to a busy person." Make yourself busier by finding time to do something for the pure passion and enjoyment. Take a course at one of your community resources. Join a meetup group. Whether it's hiking in the woods, writing that story you always thought you could write, joining the local sports enthusiast group-think outside the box and try new ways of bringing energy into your life. There's a payoff to doing something just for yourself. It makes your work and home obligations seem less daunting by changing how you think about them.

    Exercise. That thought that you have? That there's just no time? Let me tell you up front: that's a self-deception. Making it a top priority to exercise will reduce stress, increase your energy, and lead to a "take care of business" attitude that will get you moving in other areas of your life. Walk, jog, bike, get to a gym-whatever it takes, because this is a big one.

    Eat right. Recent studies have shown a correlation between weight gain and stress. Are you numbing yourself against the stress with thoughtless snacking or overeating at meals?

    Sleep. Get the sleep your body needs-7-8 hours a night. Sleep heals you both physically and psychically.

    Get yourself checked out. Research has shown that men delay doctor visits more than women, often waiting until major symptoms arise. Get to thd doctor now, find out what toll your stress has taken, especially on blood pressure and your heart. Follow a good plan to reverse the trend.

    Kick the habits. Smoking, drinking, gambling. Don't be fooled. They may provide an illusion of temporary relief. But in the long run, they add stress. Develop a plan to quit your self-destructive habits.

    Get help. If you continue to be dogged by stress and need help to implement the steps listed above, talk with a counselor or therapist to isolate and work your underlying issues. With experience in stress management and the symptoms that stress can lead to-such as anxiety and depression, I can be an ally.

Friday, June 1, 2012

Nature's Healing

People these days are stressed. They have so much on their plates that they are beginning to break down. The effect that stress has on your body can manifest into many different sicknesses. Stress can lead to anxiety disorders, heart disorders, emotional and psychological problems. There is a way to alleviate this stress; just by taking a walk, lying on a blanket on the grass or sitting in a chair by the river. Nature is a drug-free way to relieve stress. Let me just explain to you why.

Nature is filled with things that naturally relieve stress. The sun produces energy that flows through you, creating a warm relaxing sensation. This is true because the warmth relaxes your muscles, and eases tension. The sounds that occur in nature are also proven to induce a relaxing state of mind. I know this because they make machine to recreate these sounds for use to relax you into a restful state. However, there is no substitute for the real nature. Sitting by the river listening to the water lapping against the banks in a rhythmic pattern, can put your body a peaceful rhythm as well. Haven't you ever just sat and listened to the rain fall, it was calming, wasn't it? That is what nature is all about.

Smells can also play a role in the as well. Walking through a garden filled with fragrant flowers releasing their beautiful scents is euphoric. Smelling these types of smells causes your brain to release chemicals that naturally relieve your stress. The smell of just clean, fresh air can make you feel open and clear. Just as easily; seeing the amazing changes and beauty in nature can put your chaotic mind at ease. Watching the wind blow through the leaves of the trees, the sway of the branches gives you a sense of the power of nature.

So why are we so stressed? If everyone knew the secret to a less stressful life was right outside the door, wouldn't we all be peaceful? Give it a try; next time it rains just stop and listen. Go to a park and walk, take in the scenery. Grab a blanket, lay in the yard, and close your eyes, listen, and feel. Find solitude somewhere in nature, because your mind and body are begging you for a break from stress. The answer is way too easy to make excuses, just try it.